I can barely read about the recent double murder/suicide involving Susan Powell’s husband and her two sons. A couple of statements caught my eye in a Fox News article from this morning:
Susan Powell’s brother-in-law, Kirk Graves, spoke out after yesterday’s tragedy saying he thinks Powell was afraid of taking the polygraph. He also said, “I think he saw an opportunity to hurt a whole lot of people at the time that he ended it for himself, so he took the boys with him.”
and this (emphasis added):
Later on America’s Newsroom, Kiirsi Hellewell, a friend of Susan Powell’s reacted to the news. She revealed that she has believed that Josh Powell killed Susan for quite a while now, and hypothesized that it may have been because he felt as though he were losing control and that Susan was gaining too much independence. Hellewell said, “She told me in the past that when they would have arguments, and fights about things and talk about divorce, he would say things like ‘You’re not getting the kids unless it is over my dead body.’”
Threats are not idle. Threats are threatening. They are made for a reason.
When the abuser loses control, he just might pull the nuclear option. In his mind, he wins, gets in the last word and hurts a whole lot of people in the process.
If you’re being threatened, please, please, please listen to what’s being said, document the threats by writing them down somewhere and date the notation. Take it seriously.
Never make the mistake of thinking a controlling, abusive man ‘can’t possibly mean’ what he chooses to say with his own mouth.